April Week 4: Healing Doesn’t Have to Be Pretty
This Week’s Theme: Performative Calm, Sacred Rage & Ritual Reclamation
💌 Welcome to Your Weekly Nervous System Liberation
Hey babe,
This week in The Ember Vault, we’re kicking perfectionism out of our healing practice and handing the mic to the parts of ourselves that have absolutely no chill.
We’re talking:
What happens when “just breathe” feels like a threat, not a solution
How spiritual spaces keep silencing rage, grief, and neurodivergent truth
Why healing should never feel like a performance review
And how to build rituals that work for your messy, brilliant, unbothered body
This post is your personal permission slip to stop pretending you’re okay when you’re not, scream into your throw blanket, and call floor time a sacred practice.
Your two new worksheets this week are unfiltered tools for nervous system reclamation and ritual rebellion—and yes, crying in your car totally counts.
👁️🗨️ Shame Scripts We’re Burning This Week
The Calm Olympics
Ever felt like everyone else is healing “better” than you because they can meditate for 40 minutes and you dissociate after 4?
Where do you feel pressure to be still, quiet, chill, or evolved before your body’s even caught up?
What does your nervous system actually need when “breathe through it” feels like a slap?
Spiritual Spaces That Felt Like Stage Plays
Have you ever joined a healing circle or class and thought, “I didn’t consent to this ceremony”—but stayed anyway because you didn’t want to seem difficult?
Tell us about the cacao circle, the breathwork meltdown, the Reiki session that accidentally opened a trauma portal. What made you override your truth?
Let’s name the coercion so we can reclaim our consent.
Your Sacred, Non-Aesthetic Rituals
If you could build your own healing ritual with zero pressure to be cute, calm, or coherent—what would it look like?
Would you scream? Laugh? Lie face-down on your kitchen floor wrapped in a heating pad and whisper “I am the vibe” between sobs?
Drop your dream ritual setup in the comments. The weirder, the better.
📄 Grab Your Companion Worksheets
This week’s podcast episodes—
Ep. 13: The Nervous System Doesn’t Want a Performance. It Wants Permission.
Ep. 14: Rage, Rituals, and Saying No to Healing That Isn’t Yours
—are fully loaded with truthbombs and come with two brand-new worksheets to help you reclaim healing on your terms.
🧠 Worksheet 1: Messy, Angry, Whole
→ Map your nervous system, decode shutdowns and rage responses, and build rituals that don’t require breathwork, bathwater, or Buddhist detachment.
🔮 Worksheet 2: Healing Isn’t Aesthetic – A Shame Detox for the Spiritually Over-It
→ Drag the healing industrial complex, identify your personal healing red flags, and create rituals rooted in consent, not coercion.
👉 Download the Worksheets Here
Because sacred doesn’t have to mean silent. And healing doesn’t need a brand kit.
You don’t have to glow to be growing.
You don’t have to calm down to be healing.
You don’t have to be palatable to be powerful.
Go be unfiltered. Go be sacred. Go be real.
Love you hard,
—Dr. Misty 🖤
