The Erotic Cost of Being ‘Good’: How People-Pleasing Kills Pleasure
The “good girl” narrative doesn’t leave room for turn-ons, preferences, or messy pleasure. Here’s how people-pleasing wrecks sex—and how to reclaim your erotic autonomy.
Why Neurodivergent Brains Can’t ‘Just Relax’ During Sex
“Just relax” doesn’t work when your nervous system is juggling 47 browser tabs and your socks are committing sensory crimes. This post is for every ND body tired of being told pleasure should be easy
Is This Turn-On or Trauma?
Arousal isn’t always consent. And sometimes what looks like desire is actually your nervous system trying to survive. Here’s how to tell the difference—without shame, and without rushing your healing.
Your Brain on Purity Culture
If your nervous system flinches at foreplay, you might be recovering from a virginity-obsessed cult. Don’t worry—so are we. Let’s talk about what purity culture really did to your brain.
Reclaiming Pleasure After Shame and Sensory Burnout
Ever cried after sex, ghosted your own desire, or felt like your body just... shuts the fuck down? You’re not broken—you’re burnt out. Let’s reclaim pleasure like your nervous system depends on it. (Because it kinda does.)